tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177793.post5418604141329873958..comments2024-02-25T14:37:25.154-05:00Comments on CaroleMcDonnell: Anger, AngerCarole McDonnellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15443401088634718848noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177793.post-74910861773726607562008-12-11T15:28:00.000-05:002008-12-11T15:28:00.000-05:00Yes, i love your new avatar. Godo creative use of ...Yes, i love your new avatar. Godo creative use of the imagination. I should do that. At least to counter the negative ones. -CCarole McDonnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15443401088634718848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177793.post-56688781515696581572008-12-11T13:26:00.000-05:002008-12-11T13:26:00.000-05:00I believe in your writing, although I know that do...I believe in your writing, although I know that doesn't weigh much in terms of getting published and actually making some money on selling books! I long to hold the entire book about the 'towers' in my hand and read it cover to cover. (I don't recall you mentioning the name on this blog so I won't either).<BR/><BR/>About sleep, what steps have you made to determine why you aren't sleeping and what can be done about it? Long term solutions that is. Even for things like if it's worries keeping up, you need to find some trick to relax your mind. For, me believe it or not, I have this big huge goliath mansion that I'm building. it has has 4 level 'theater' in it, a huge formal dining, several guest suites for my company, wheel chair accessible because my sister, now dead, was in a wheel chair - but I'm just thinking ahead so handicap people can visit. A BIG huge exersize room overlooking my yard that cascades down a lake or some body of water . . . oh the list goes on and on. I usually fall asleep before while I'm 'renovating one or two rooms'. Other thoughts tend to keep me awake -maybe because they're the real world problems.<BR/>the problem if you are tired EVERYTHING is more difficult to deal with. Getting a proper nights rest should be the first order of business.<BR/><BR/>I remember one trick to relax, envision like a painting and plant yourself in it. So I had myself in this lovely waterfall painting my sister did. I built a house by the river, but then worried it would flood, so then I thought 'hey, I'll put it on stilts' then I realized that I wasn't really relaxing myself, worring about the house flooding in all! Ha, that trick didn't work.<BR/>(So I'm surprised building my house works - but it does)<BR/><BR/><BR/>now I know why you always managed to read all the submissions and managed such wonderful comments - sounds like you don't sleep very much.<BR/><BR/>I realize you have some pressing family issues also, but seriously, if you aren't sleeping, your ability to manage anything goes out the door.<BR/><BR/>(do you like my new avatar - my babies - just love them and I love posting now on blogs so I can see my kitties everywhere. Hey, my motto - It's the little things in life that keeps us happy!)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17866730185060307014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177793.post-62570083527387654612008-12-11T12:50:00.000-05:002008-12-11T12:50:00.000-05:00Hi Lisa:Just annoyed at lack of sleep, at judgment...Hi Lisa:<BR/><BR/>Just annoyed at lack of sleep, at judgmental folks, stupid publishers who don't believe in writers' books. That kinda thing. I'll definitely take your suggestions to heart. Thanks -CCarole McDonnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15443401088634718848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177793.post-5110654202213843322008-12-11T12:05:00.000-05:002008-12-11T12:05:00.000-05:00Since feeling anger has such unhealthy consequence...Since feeling anger has such unhealthy consequences, trying to learn how to ease it and not feel it becomes imperative to your health!<BR/>We feel anger if we've felt we've been wronged in some way: ditched in line, cut off in traffic, trying to help someone who doesn't appreciate your efforts or anger with ourselves for not behaving/doing what we think we should do, or would like to be able to do.<BR/>Also, anger is often a symptom of depression. (That is, a person is clinically depressed, however, they don't actually mope and act 'depressed', but they are angry about everything and fly into to fits (or sputter into them) at the smallest thing, although to them . . . it doesn't feel small.)<BR/><BR/>Do you care to say why you are angry? Although I can understand if you don't want to name names . . .<BR/><BR/>So not only do you need to work it out of your system, you need to work to prevent it from building up!<BR/><BR/>To work it out of your system. Is the 'cause' justified? Bounce off what happened to someone else, do they understand and agree that you've been 'wronged'. If you can deal directly with the person that has wronged you (preferably in an non threatening and nonbostile way) it can help to vent those feelings. In some cases, people who habitually cause you to be angry, should be removed from your life - if that is possible. <BR/><BR/>Learn to relax yourself, to breath deeply, maybe think of the positive events in your life (you know - purring little kitties) tell yourself that it will get better - it will, either change the situation or change your attitude! <BR/>Try to talk it through, if with no one else, yourself. Ask yourself, Why am I angry? Is it really worth upsetting myself about? Can I change it? <BR/>Also note when you trying to work it out, referring to the offending party in negative ways only helps to fuel the anger. <BR/>maybe that person is having a really bad day (parent died, child sick, house blew up) maybe they've been raised in such a sad enviroment their ability to see clearly has been clouded (oh that is my non negative way of saying racist pig or sexist pig . . . :-)<BR/>You know the saying 'Lord grant me the ability to accept what I can not change and change what I can change."<BR/><BR/>Stupid people should be pititied - if they are saying something out of pure ignorance, shake your head in dismay but work to not allow it to upset you - it isn't worth it.<BR/>I used to get so irked with drivers who would cut me off, try to sneak in, I used to try to prevent them from sneaking in- just wasn't worth the aggravation, I for that most part, just allow them in, and feel better for being nicer to people.<BR/><BR/>Continue to treat others the way you want to be treated, those of us REALLY do appreciate how kind you've been to us!<BR/><BR/>(I just love the live blog list I have on my blog!)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17866730185060307014noreply@blogger.com